PS.
A visit to a real pro therapist today reminded me of the fact that a lot of times you realize stuff only when somebody else says it back to you. You have been battling with your problem, with no success, and then you repeat it all to a friend who says, "It seems to me as if you're..."
And you stop, and realize it's true. You had the answer all along, but were too busy solving your problem to see it.
So, it seems to me you're an intelligent and beautiful person and that you can accomplish anything, if you put your mind to it. *) Now say it out loud.
*) courtesy of Doc Brown.